Your man is not going to magically become a prince charming when he turns into a father. He will be the same as he is now for better or worse. His personality is not going to change.

Women constantly make the mistake of not truly seeing whom their boyfriend or husband truly is. They look at the man they wish their partner was, instead of the man that he really is.

So look at your man right now. Look at his personality, the way he treats his family, the way he treats you, and you will know what kind of father he is going to be.

Don’t let your optimistic outlook cloud your view of who your man truly is. It is not fair to you, it is not fair to him, and it is definitely not fair to your baby. Understanding who your man truly is will set you free to make decisions about your relationship and about parenthood with a clearer perspective than you ever thought possible.

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